The "F--k It" List: The Self-Awareness Hack You Didn’t Know You Needed

Be the rebel in your own story

Forget the Bucket List—Let’s Talk About What You Actually Want

Ah, the bucket list. That glowing beacon of supposed life fulfilment, where you write down all the things you must do before you die because, apparently, if you don’t swim with dolphins, climb Everest, or eat a croissant under the Eiffel Tower, your life has been wasted.

But here’s the real question: do you actually care about any of it?

If we’re being honest, how much of your bucket list was actually chosen by you? And how much of it is just a collection of expectations, Instagram highlights, and things you think you should do because everyone else says they want to?

That’s where the "F--k It" List comes in. It’s not about what you want to do before you die. It’s about what you don’t care about doing at all. And the clarity that follows? Life-changing.

Step One: Write Down Every Life Goal You’ve Been Told You Should Care About

Grab a notebook, open your notes app, or scrawl it on a napkin if you have to. Now, write down all the things you’ve ever been told should be on your list of life accomplishments.

• Learn a second language

• Run a marathon

• Buy a house with a white picket fence

• Have 2.5 kids and a golden retriever

• Meditate every morning and journal every night

• Go skydiving

• Read War and Peace

You get the idea. Anything you’ve ever felt external pressure to do, write it down.

Step Two: Ask Yourself, "Do I Actually Give a Shit?"

This is where the magic happens. Go through your list, one by one, and ask yourself honestly: Do I actually want this?

Do you really want to learn French, or do you just feel like you should because it sounds cultured?

Do you actually want to run a marathon, or do you just want the bragging rights?

Are you dying to wake up at 5 AM to journal, or do you just feel guilty every time someone on a podcast tells you successful people do it?

It’s okay to realize you don’t care about some of these things. In fact, it’s liberating. You just freed yourself from an arbitrary to-do list that was secretly making you feel inadequate.

Step Three: Cross Out the Lies, Highlight the Truth

Once you’ve sorted through the noise, you’ll be left with two kinds of things:

1. Things you truly want – Keep those. These are YOUR goals, the ones that light you up.

2. Things you only thought you wanted – Fuck those. Cross them out, delete them, let them go. You are not obligated to chase someone else’s dreams.

Step Four: Replace the Shoulds with the Hell Yeses

Now that you've cleared the clutter, your real desires have room to breathe. Instead of feeling burdened by an arbitrary checklist, you get to build a life that actually excites you.

Maybe instead of running a marathon, you just want to go on more long walks with a great playlist. Maybe instead of backpacking through Asia for a year, you’d rather take one amazing solo trip to a single city that fascinates you. Maybe instead of learning a language, you just want to get really, really good at making the perfect Old Fashioned.

Whatever it is, own it. Your list, your rules.

Step Five: Revel in the Freedom

There’s something radical about permission—permission to not care, permission to let go, permission to focus only on what actually matters to YOU.

Once you drop the weight of external expectations, you stop feeling like you’re constantly behind in life. Instead, you start moving toward something that feels real.

That’s what the "Fuck It" List is all about.

Because at the end of the day, life isn’t about ticking off someone else’s checklist. It’s about creating your own damn adventure, on your own terms.

So go ahead—write your list, cross some things out, and see what’s left standing.

That? That’s the life you actually want. And that’s the only one worth chasing.